‘Tonggeran’ and ‘Valiyiran’ cases

Tonggeran [Tong-ge-ran]
-adjective
1) To hang on something
2) ‘Hanging’ on ’someone’

Valiyiran [Vali-yi-ran]
-adjective
1) ‘Acting’ for the sake of grabbing one’s attention

 
Tonggeran and valiyiran. Those two words are usually associated with guys and in order to streamline this article, I shall be talking about those Indian guys as usual.

Both words may identically mean the same in terms of ‘why they are behaving like that’, but the real hidden meaning behind it might be slightly different. For instance, tonggeran may be like one guy is always attached to a group of girl friends whom he newly befriended and as for the reason, no one knows! To flirt? To tackle them? To show to other guys that he is with girls? To show to other girls that ‘these’ girls are with him? Hmmmmm. But, whenever we tend to ask that guy why you are always with those girls compared to your other guy friends all of a sudden or something like do you love any of them, he would go like: COME ON, WE’RE JUST FRIENDS!

Take this scenario on how ‘Tonggeran’ differs from ‘Just friends’:

“Just friends!”
Ravi recently joined a college together with a bunch of his guy friends. He got to know some girl friends who happen to be his classmates. During lunch break, he would join his guy friends and invite his new girl friends to go and have lunch together. Since then, all of them would go for lunch together!

“Tonggeran”
Ravi recently joined a college together with a bunch of his guy friends. He got to know some girl friends who happen to be his classmates. During lunch break, he won’t bother on what his guy friends are eating or where they are going, but instead, his main priority would be focused on his new girl friends alone. Wherever they go, he would follow them just for the sake of showing off his ‘friendliness’ attitude. And once again, he won’t give a phuck whether his guy friends are eating shit or what-so-ever.

Spot the difference? The sudden twist of a guy from lallygagging with his guy friends to emphasize more on his new girl friends is somewhat amusing I would say. If you love any of those girls, fine, go ahead and tell to your guy friends frankly. Don’t come up with shitty excuses saying that you don’t have any guy friends! You see, I know that guys too, loves attraction as girls do. But please don’t over-react lar! At least spend some equal time with your guy friends and most important of all, never abandon them! Never kalti-uderan them to be specific!

Now, let us study the word “Valiyiran”:
 

Example scenario:

There is this pretty girl named Prisha in college. Most of the guys are aftering her and let’s see how some guys would ‘act’ to grab her attention.

Mista Joe: Hey Prisha, you look gorgeous today! You look great in this dress! Oh my god, oh my god!

*Another guy approaches to talk with her, noticing that one guy has already made his way*

Mike: Wow wow, superb cutie! Hey, wanna go for a drink now?

*Yet another guy overheard their conversation and came to the rescue*

Tamilkumaran: Prisha, innekinu parthu ningge rumbe alaga irukingge. Yenode kanne patro polle irukke. Inthe Sunday ningge freeya irupinggila? Nambe veliya polama?

 
And other guys would keep on flowing continuously. What happens to Prisha in the end? Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the most ‘manmathan’ of us all?

In a nutshell, I wish to convey my piece of advice to those tonggeran and valiyiran cases out there. Just because you are using words such as dear or cutie compared to others who call their girl friends by name, don’t think that girls would fall for you easily and just because you are purposely talking English 24/7 with a girl compared to other guys who talks in Tamil with her, don’t think that girls would easily fall for you again. If you think you are the sole Manmathan and you could stand out of the rest, well, the following picture best describes you.

*This article is intended to “whom it may concern”.
*Apart from the guys, girls do the same thing too.