Indian weddings
I had a couple of wedding invitations lately and even went for a few wedding occasions. One thing that I keep on noticing over and over again is the ‘trend’ in most some of the Indian weddings, and as usual, let me summarize my findings below:
1) Most of the Indian weddings (assuming that it was held in a hall) would be having the same food menu inclusive of briyani rice, ‘mutton perettal’, ‘chicken varuval’ and syrup. Is it a must for every Indian wedding to have these kind of foods and drink?
2) In some cases, although the emcees are aware that all the guests would be busy eating like pigs, they would never fail to instruct the guests to “give a big round applause” to XXXX, and expecting them to pause halfway, put down their spoons and forks, clap a couple of times and continue eating again.
3) Most of the Indian weddings that I have attended previously had a very bad taste when it comes to background music. They should put more effort in downloading more songs by Kenny G compared to those songs of Shivaji and Azhagiya Tamil Magan. Note: The keyword here is “Background music”, and not just a music.
4) Indian aunties would never fail to stare at one another just for the sake of concluding on who wears the most jeweleries and who wears the best saree, so that each of them would have a topic to gossip about once they are back home.
5) Most of the machans would never fail to admire the beauty of the chicks that would be present in weddings, but would fail terribly when they try to act macho in front of those girls.
6) Some weddings would have singers performing on stage, and in most cases, these singers would be singing when all the guests would be busy eating and/or queuing for food. I’m just wondering, how many guests would really pay attention to the singers during that time?
7) In some cases, the bride followers would be up to par with the bride, and the only thing that separates the bride apart from the others would be a bouquet of flowers that the bride would be holding when all of them would be walking accompanying the bride heading to the stage.
When the time comes for the guests to go and congratulate/greet the newlywed couples, some aunties would never fail to talk some grandmother stories to the bridegroom for about 7 minutes, without realising the long queue that are waiting behind her.
9) Last but not least, only in Indian wedding is where most of the guests would be flowing in one by one 35 minutes after the stated wedding time.
The above are merely my personal observations and have nothing to do with anyone or any recent wedding specifically. Nandri.
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…and that is exactly what makes an indian wedding all different from any other! pointed out the downs, why not the ups?. so its a trend to have da same ol same ol menu, nonsense music b/g, lady bitching, overly dressed mamiz, and oh-im-so-hndsome-look-at-me-look-at-me machanz… but the point is, the wedding itself. who cares what happens around when the whole point of being there is to see the beautiful loving couple finally marrying!
! well, i wont deny, i hate to go for weddings, cos it takes years before the man ties the thali around his lady and i dont have patients to sit n watch something for a very long time.. but the beauty of it, is the wedding itself. an indian wedding, is an extraordinary one. and the rest of it, doesnt really matter! i don care who sings wat, who plays what, what food is being served, whic mami iz talkin bout who *n plz we hav mamiz in chinese n malay weddings as well!* and the machanz too!.. they r everywher! oh n ya its just normal for da bitchin in weddings part cos its human nature, no one can stop bitching about one another, no biggie! we all do it. and ofcos when u go to a weddin, u xpect well dressed people… so i guess bridesmaidz r jus doin their very best in dat *somtimes i c bridesmaidz dressed more dashin den da bride itself 
*…n ofcos young machanz wud oni wana look at available-hot-bridesmaid not the bride ofcos 
! and last but not da least, INDIAN TIMING. we r all well known for tat n we will live wit it! LOL! * and ya im one of those indian-late-coming-guest. 
! but ofcos i hav a reason for tat, n as ive mentioned b4, i don like to sit n watch da weddin 4 a very long time 
* ……and ya indianz alwayz hav a reason to everthing. LOL.
takecare!
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i wanted to write a post on indian wedding.. neengelum eluthinge bro..its ok.. mine coming soon…such an interesting topic hehehehe
Not only that indian weddings are held in the same old manner but it looks like most of the guests were only interested in food. I remember on my wedding, before my hubby tied the thali, half of the guest dissaperead, and only to be found in the dinner hall!!!! By the time thali was tied, almost all guest vanished!!!!
And why is that, all parents and in laws insist on inviting every tom dick and harry to the wedding. Invitations are passed to unknown people and heck even to those they met once or twice in their life time!!! And the larger the crowd the happier they will be!!! Myself and hubby wanted a quiet and private wedding with 50 guest but nope!!!! oldies insisted on must be 500> guest wedding !!! Big crowd big moyee!!! Sometimes I wished we have just eloped and used the big sum of money spent for the wedding instead be used for our honeymoon or buying a house or car!!!!
Seriously, whats wrong with having a small ,private wedding?…and how many of us out there have a beautiful memorable wedding with large crowd and loud music with both bride and the groom sweating like cow! Even more irritating when the cameramen asks you pose in 20 diffrent wayswith each and every wedding guest!!! when you feel like screaming enough!!!…NO MORE POSING WITH THE ENTIRE CROWD!
Youngsters out there, please plan your wedding the way you want to remember it! Its your big day and not a day to please others!!!
Bigsista.. my dreams are the same as u.. quite and private wedding. save cost.. harmony function.. but u see,, when we give out the invitation.. have u come accross this question” have u given to xxxx … u better do otherwise kochekivangeh.. and this will drag till we are out of cards.. Confused on how much food to order for the event. when the event come to an end, we realise food left over and we have wasted it. but this old folks still will say.. parevaleg.. left over better than nothing to eat.
Most of the time, I observed there are no proper tables and chairs provided for the guest for dining. I have been to many weddings where practically most of us will have to stand and eat. I think instead of inviting big crowds, Indians instead should look into inviting only close relatives and friends and provide better facilities.
I deeply understand you have taken time to survey…people’s wedding so that you wont do the same mistake on ours….
here is sum of my feedback , to make ours a memorable one
1) our wedding is not going to be in hall , its on CRUISE SUPERSTAR VIRGO, so menu shall be…chicken chop, chicken maryland, fish n chips….
2) In our cases, although there are no emcees only live lite music…by SAMUEL J DASS as we aware that all the guests would be busy eating an no need to “give a big round applause” and expecting them to pause halfway, put down their spoons and forks, clap a couple of times and continue eating again.
3) The keyword here is “Background music”, and not just a music. Therefore as per your desire… im making arrangements to have Kenny G sax to fusion with the lite music team….
4) ) Indian aunties in our wedding are allowed only to wear one set of jewellery…. more than that will be sent of by the guards at depot before cruising on board, the invitation wud remind them on that….. those aunties wearing more than the Poh Kong would be wailing their wishes from shore…..
5) I still doubt ,are you going to invite….those machans and machis… coz economically their moyee isnt goin to be big… likely a rm10 vase from 2 ringgit shop… to add… i never like the idea of young chicks looking at you…on that day…. and when those machans gonna look at me… its a risk for ya too….
6) Thanks to the lite music…. guests would really pay attention to US the wedding couple during that time?
7) In our case, the brides maid would be in veil so people can focus on bride,
9) Last but not least, our wedding is where most of the guests would be on time, the cruise will be on deck for abt 30 minute no more no less… time exceeded….you may hear people wailing and missing their chance to get in cruise………..
BoHin , looks like you arrange your wedding after a very good planning and observation. Same time financial stable , to do weeding ceremony on a ship . good good
BigSista , you a experienced person . each of your example , i think reflects your own wedding experience , thanks for your advise .
just back from wedding held on sunday.yeah the same old thing is carry on. Another things is wedding dinner will become the clubbing environment. dancing like hell, breakdance competiton will be going on ( many hip hoppers will be on wedding dinner dressing like go clubbing, wear bling bling), aunty, grandma,girls boys, kids all will dance with wateva step they know. But its kinda fun oso.
Hie bro…,will you pls post an article on d trend of using ‘da’,'di’,'pa’….’ma’…all sorts of rubbish among Indian teenagers lately?
y da hell must a boy call a girl ‘da’,wen its actually meant 4 dem?
Don’t u think it sounds like flirting using tis kinda words???
yeah u right resmi, i donno wer it came from when they speak english they add da, di, “yar”. i try to find it in OXFORD dictionary cannot find the meaning of it.
@Indianponnu – I just love to prioritize the ‘downs’ compared to those ‘ups’. Anyway, as you said, that is why Indian weddings are unique compared to others. Cheers! =)
@rujjcoomarh – Really arh bro? Make a shout in my shoutbox once you made a posting about it.
@BigSista – Well said sister! And thanks for sharing your experience. You are right when you mentioned about the part when all the guests would disappear all of a sudden the moment the thali has been tied. Gosh, how funny some of our guests could be. It is so obvious that most of them would be having the same thought, which is to rapidly eat+greet+leave!
@puspa – Yea, that is a common thing. Sigh….
@Murthi – Yape, the facilities are very important. There is no point calling around 1000 guests where as the tables and chairs are sufficient for only 850 guests and expecting the stranded guests to be stranded indeed.
@BoHin – I’m completely speechless. Our wedding our wedding nu solluringgele, ningge yaaru miss BoHin?
@slim-boy – Well, welcome to the new era of Indian wedding ceremony, brother!
@Resmi – Haha, someone even emailed me a few weeks back asking me to do a case study about this. Yepidinu parpomme.. =)
@townguy – Ship ellam periya settu bro….. =O
one more thing bro…most of them will be RUNNIN for the food the moment they hear the “kettimellam” as if they r sum refugees deprived of food for weeks….damn tiz fellas
i attend weddings only for the food. if they don’t serve you briani, chicken and mutton, what else are you expecting? white rice, fried fish and sotong? and most temple weddings only serve veggie food, which sucks big time, so the dinner reception will be something to look forward to.
i only do this when i go for weddings of unidentified people, that is, being invited by friends of friends.. :p
but personally to me, the wedding function+preparation for it itself is a reason for all the relatives to unite, and thats when quality family time gets to be spent..so i guess i agree wit the point that weddings should be held wit a certain number of guests. its not the quantity, its the quality that matters..
hey guys…i have some fantastic experience to share with u all…within this year, i have attended nearly 5 wedding at my hometown here..from my opinion, some of the hosts are just care for moyee and gifts rather than serving good food for the guest..foods really suck..worst then my hostel food..and some of the hosts dare to remind the guest to bring gift or moyee..and they’ll ask u directly infront of other guest whtr u have brought moyee together with u
..the larger your moyee, the larger the chicken piece or mutton piece u get…
2 months back v have attended a wedding..which finally my whole family suffered in diarrhea …WOW..time waste..moyee waste
@thiagu – Biasa thanne bro.. Haha.
@the truth – I have never condemned any weddings for having chicken and mutton but instead, it would be much nicer if the foods ordered would be different from the usual ‘mutton perettal’ and ‘chicken varuval, brother.
@shivaz – Agreed bro. It’s the quality that matters, and not the quantity!
@heartbroken – Hmmm, so far, I have never encountered any wedding hosts asking me directly about moyee though, be it in a serious tone or as a joke. If they are to ask me about it, I would tell in a serious tone that I didn’t brought any, and would eager to know their reply.
saamy waiting for poosari….
BigSista- well said. i wish that too. but well sometimes v dun have chance to make some decisions in our life what..
haiz…
nowadays food in weddings very bad ler…
especially when the wedding in the temple and vege food. huh! i cant even put more than 5 spoon. damn worst… sometimes we just give the “moi” and chow to any nearer restaurant for mkn. *not joking, SERIOUSLY*
Marriage is once in a lifetime, for most of us that is.:P
Now, on the day of the marriage , all that matters for the couple is getting committed to each other and carrying on their life together for the rest of their lifetime. So, although many of us attending wedding might think that the couple might feel disheartened by the fact not many are concentrating on their wedding, the real fact remains as the couple knows nothing more is important than the marriage ceremony itself, which should go in a flow.
With that said, I can’t wait for Makkez marriage lo…hehehehe..
When is makkez turn for dum dum dum??
nyek nyek nyek… one thing tht i observed wic is indeed crucially true abt indian marriages is tht the mamiez cant stop parading their g0ld n their fortune 2 the fellow guest.. nevertheless wats with the assumption the bride shud be c0verd with gold if nt it aint an official marriage??? itz as tough the indian community is sendin out a message to our dear robber’s..f0r examplez there’s no need to lo0k far ahead jz lo0k ahead of our momma’s.. m0st indian momma’s wud want their daughter’s dressed in the finest clothes and gold if they were about to pay a visit to a weddin function..*speakin up0n experience*
personnaly i hate dressin up 2 noe tht im jz gonna sweat it off in abt 10 minz once ive entered the hall…i have also been repremanded many tymes by mua momma 4 nt bein “girlish” enuf cz i have no sense of being tip top in my dressin…(where r ur bangles? where is ur pottu? have u worn the 10 paun necklace tht i kept 4 u on the table?as a gal u need to know how to dress up and lo0k ur best bla bla bla bla…)
these are jz sum comments set based on the mamies in my life… miserable duo…itz tru tht v shud dress our best bt it doesnt mean tht v shud outshine the bride…afta all evry1 has their day to b queen rite?n v shud let the 1 gettin married to act feel like one for a day…lalalala…;p
hey evy1…cool place..nice topic..came across tis site in sum1′s blog…
its been quite a time since i went 4 weddings…couldnt een recall de last 1..
i jz dunt like 2 go 2 weddings..
& even if i do go, i hav 2 dress up 2 de occasion..eveytin must be gold..
…my parents will scold me if i dunt cum 4 weddings bcoz
- hw will u knw ur relative????
- if u dunt go 2 their wedding, then they wont cum 2 ur wedding…
& nowadays, if u giv less than rm50 4 moyee, they look down on u…& they will note down wich fmly gav hw much moyee so tat wen tat fmly hav a wedding occasion in de future, they will gv de same amount of money…
do hope ther will be an article on the use of ‘da’, ‘di’, etc etc…a lot of experince on tat…
@viji – Expect the unexpected. =)
@Durai – Yenode marriage arh? Hehe.
@Logan – Probably in 20 years time. =D
@MixDaMash – For a day? Haha. Anyway, I really pity you girls. Although we, the boys, would not be bothered by some mommies and uncles, but however, we are very glad knowing the fact that we are not being pressured by them as well as adhering to their ‘illusional’ so-called rules for boys. =D
@seevas – Welcome to this blog, seevas! I gotta agree with you regarding the ‘moyee’ part. It is very true! =D
lol makkez
we will b waiting for ur wedding invitation..
good observation makkez… well,really feels comfortable when someone really talks about all this,exspecially about the mamis…
Hey, this is an awesome site yar!
Good observation and well said! It’s rather pitiful, when u ought to know some are even attending a wedding for the food alone or to parade their jewelleries.
Time to change people…Attending wedding are meant to wish and bless the newly wed. Food, u can get anywhere, any time! The wedding of one wont have repetition. Just dont attend any weddings if u can’t stand the long hours.
Rather than giving the ponnu and mappilai an ugly sight of people deprived of food for weeks.
Think!
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