Taboo for Malaysian Indians

February 4, 2009 | By Makkez In M1 Articles |

Humans tend to do many things including things that we can’t even imagine of. We talk, laugh, cry, kiss and so and so. But when the ‘culture’ of one human being came into the picture, there would be some rules that one should be and shouldn’t be, and that is what this article is going to be about.

We, the Malaysian Indians, have our own set of ‘rules’ as well. These rules are invisible as they were set by no one, but automatically it would be perceived as “Shouldn’t’s of Malaysian Indians” and surprisingly until now, it is still being followed by many. Now, let me list down three (3) things that I believe, would be considered as ‘taboo’ for Malaysian Indians. For those kiddies, ‘taboo’ means some sort of a prohibition or a restriction. Please don’t take that word seriously as the things that I am going to list down will be things that will usually be observed by some nerd kiddies, kelevis, mamees, mamas and not forgetting our very own religious freaks and the condemnation that will be poured out by them.

1) Holding hands in public
It is common for couples to hold hands in public. Many would regard it as a sign of ‘love’ and/or ‘protection’, be it for couples or for a family. But still, many kiddie Indian couples would be shy to hold each other hands in public due to the public stare that they would be getting, the same stare that you will be getting when you encounter an Indian in a very-less-Indian population area. Note: The ‘public’ in previous sentence refers to the Malaysian Indian community. Even in colleges or schools, we could see chinese couples holding each other hands without even thinking on what the other people ‘might say’ but some of our kiddie couples would never fail to imagine all sort of things before deciding to hold their partner’s hand, including of ‘What if others see?”, “What would they be thinking” and etc. Why is that so?

GF: Why you don’t wanna hold my hand?
BF: Look at that Indian family, they are staring at us…
GF: So what? What do you care if they stare??
BF: No da, they will see one kind…
GF: &*@^@#@@^*#

2) Kissing in public
1 in every 10000 individual would at least dare to kiss their partner in their cheek, lets say in an Indian-crowded mall. Talking about kissing on the cheek, how about kissing on the lips? Why is it that when a girl kisses her boyfriend’s cheek, there would be a group of other Indians staring at them, gossiping about them and labeling them as ’showing off’ or in layman’s term (Tamil), arpattam? If one is to kiss his/her partner on the lips, what do you think will be the reaction of the surrounding typical Indians? The answer: WTF! OMFG!

3) Indian girls wearing short pants and short skirts in public
“This is not our culture!”. That would be the most famous answer given by some individuals when asked to comment on Indian girls wearing short skirts and short pants in public. Should Indian girls keep on adhering to this ‘rule’, that wearing short skirts and short pants in public are considered to be ‘taboo’? There would even be a possibility that when a normal hot-Brahmin-religious-girl wears a top and a short skirt, there would be a ’slutty impression’ on this girl and she would definitely be in the waiting list of some pervert Indian predators.

Mom: Don’t wear like that, you look too sexy and all the boys will stare at you.
Girl: ~~Ama~~ Mommy, puhhhleaseee lar!
Mom: You better listen to me…
Girl: Yea right!

Any other things that I may have missed?

*All the above only applies to those concerned. And yes, I am aware that not all the said individuals will be doing as what have been said above.

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43 Responses for "Taboo for Malaysian Indians"

baasha February 4th, 2009 at 5:50 pm
i agree with u makkez hair young girls should be allowed to dress short pants and short skirts but they should wear skirts where their under wear can be seen and sit open legged where the cock hair can be seen i like it the indidn girls shoud improve not only show thier thighs but thier hair under their underwear
seevas February 4th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
i guess its already part of our ‘indians’..so, you cant say much unless you start changing it from the root..but wearing or doin whatever the couples wanna do is their own privacy..some girls feel comfortable wearing like that..some may not..its down to themselves..their choice…
viji February 4th, 2009 at 8:23 pm
i tak paham u tgh kutuk atau support.

anyway, kissing in public place, wearing short skirts/pants all tak boleh la. let me recall back one song lyrics,

‘kanavan mathum, kaanum alagai kadaiyil pothu kaathuriyae’

hope girls will realise. freedom is fine. but dun misuse that ponnungale.. then people will take advantage on you.

one point i agree, ‘holding hands in public place’
Theeyes05 February 5th, 2009 at 12:00 am
viji…ayirathil ore varthai la…. kalekeringge neengge!

holding hands in public shud be okay lor…

(KISS, HUG, Hold hand, depends between the couples)
if you scared that some1 will see you and complain to your parents.. then its cannot be…

and if your parents n her parents are kamching! then no worries,
what kiss, hug, hold, main kejar x2 pun boleh!

its depends between the couples! they will understand why she or he dont do these stuff all!

If you are the lucky boy/girl… you shud enjoy it and dont bother bout others. who cares!!!

am i right?
happeningbaberocks February 5th, 2009 at 2:16 am
seriya sonningge vg….
holding hands in d public is okay…
regardless of your relationship…
recommended to husbands & wives, couples whether it’s a lover, bf or gf…
u have d guts 2 love them, but no guts 2 hold their hands in public?

but kissing in public crowded with indians?
tat might not be a good idea…
d reason?
simple….
if u really notice, indians normally go out with their whole family(tata, patti, amma, appa, kutties n kusamalams)…
kissing in public (especially in front of them), is inappropriate…
d kutties might ask ‘wat r those ppl doing?’
can’t blame them, growing kids..they wanna noe everything!
while kissing in front of older ppl is just like u r doing it in front of ur parents n grandparents…
at least avengge age-kku mariyadhai kudukalam-le?

n bout girls dressing sexily…
its not bad 2 keep updating urself with latest trends, but just dun cross d borderline…
changing style will neva change a person’s character… u have 2 bear tat in mind…. u r just changing ur image..tat’s it…
dressing sexily…
u just gonna arouse d guys hormone, which if they r able 2 control, they just whistle at you…
but thank god our tamilan guys r gentlemen…
if naatans see u tat way, adutha canny ong case thaan….
and we indians have our own identity….
we r recognised worldwide due 2 our richness in culture…
who dun love sarees?
i’m crazy of sarees….
but tat’s apart..
we have something really valuable (our culture) n regarded as classy..
why not uphold our identity…
n clothes r used 2 maraikaran our body…
if u wanna expose ur flesh, minimize it…
or else, just dun wear anything…..
one more thing…
guys-kku hot-ta irukkura girls vechikka pudikkum, homely-ya irukkura girls life partner-ra varanum-nu pudikkum… (x all guys ah…)
the truth February 5th, 2009 at 9:13 am
No one says Indian girls aren’t allowed to dress up modernly, just know your limits, or don’t go begging for people’s help when you get sodomised,groped,molested or raped. Why perform all these jakun work in public when you can fuck each other at home or in a hotel room? Apart from holding hands, i don’t see any reasons why Indian couples should kiss and fuck each other in public.
Amenism February 5th, 2009 at 9:20 am
I agree alot on what happeningbaberocks’ comment

I may say that I’m a modern Indian girl, but that doesn’t mean i show everything off.

Our culture is such that we don’t do things we intend in public because we were taught in such a manner, Or probably because, we observe our surroundings and care of what others think of us.

They say that, ignorance is bliss, but there are pros and cons to this. Either we stop ourselves from being obscene in public or we go to a length that is just too improper.

There are people who care what others think and those who don’t.
It’s true we get stared at when we hold our lovers hands or even just playfully cuddle. What more, kissing… For me i feel it’s not wrong to do these little things but more than this, there is always a time and place. We have to remember that we live in Malaysia, not India and it’s quite normal these days to see girls wearing short skirts and tops. As long as this girl feels comfortable and confident with herself and what she wears, the “stare-ers” can back off.

So its really up to the individual. And to those who stare at people showing public display of affection or are dressed in a modern manner are probably from the “kampungs” or are just being hypocritical and close minded.

We have to live our lives to what we want and are comfortable with and with the teaching we are brought up by, not what or how people want us to be. At the same time, we as Indians are famous for being polite and respectful of others.

Let’s not forget that.

Cheers
Perak Koyak February 5th, 2009 at 1:07 pm
THIS IS NOT OUR CULTURE

this is the new catchphrase
indian gal February 5th, 2009 at 2:28 pm
You forgot another ‘taboo’ - short hair…
rujjcoomarh February 5th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
ek eleh..jadilar macam ong bumi, tak kesah mane2, kat taman, kat semak tangga lif jamban..semua tempat dia romen…atas motor bawah jejambat, bustop, dalam gsc…jadilar mcm diorang.. tak gentar pun.. semua pun beres..
apa servis ko nak, kolom batang?beres. hisap tetek? beres. gaduh? beres..

takde pun culture shock!
Mohan Manohar February 5th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
Actually.. the problem is they are thinkin that they are very nice and they might think its comfortable.. but for guyz.. they feel like when to screw a gurl whu is being like tht.. damn!!!..
Makkez February 5th, 2009 at 5:44 pm

First and foremost, let me make myself clear that I am neither supporting these acts nor condemning them as I am merely listing down those three points based on “what might be the taboos of Indians in this country”.

@baasha - No comment.

@viji - Itu merupakan soalan yang bagus. Anyway, agge mele padingge.

@Theeyes05 - Not all couples are M1 couples bro… =D

@happeningbaberocks - Ninggelom seriya soningge sister. I like this part: adutha canny ong case thaan…. =D

@the truth - Yes, they can fark as many as they want privately brother. In fact, we are not as expert as ‘them’ in being filmed and letting the videos being distributed in 3GP formats, although some of our makkals have already started to follow their trend.

@Amenism - Now, that is what I call a good write up! I totally agree with you. =)

@indian gal - I suppose you meant ’short hair for Indian girls’ … right?

@rujjcoomarh - Bro, looks like you have listed nearly all the categories available for those 3GP videos bro. Hebat, hebat…
indian gal February 5th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
yes short hair for Indian girls and also tattoo
vickn3s February 5th, 2009 at 8:30 pm
rujj, we are seeing many indians clip like dat nw as well bro…so better nt to talk bad abt them…hahahaha..ive watched even hilarious local indian porn clip…goishhh
eagle February 5th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
What about Indian girls smoking in public? Is it okay?
avtaar singh February 5th, 2009 at 10:38 pm
makkez.. from darwin’s theory, were monkey… den homo erectus, den homo sapiens… naked homosapiens … den with leaves as their clothes.. den cotton clothes.. den cover whole body… n now due to global warming, v r goin back to short skirts n who knows maybe back to homo erectus n den monkeys.. dun blame the indians.. blame tglobal warming.. n blame the theory “wut goes around, comes around”… peace out..
Theeyes05 February 5th, 2009 at 11:30 pm
not all… thats what i said,
only some who M1 and dont care bout others thinking and saying!

you be maaja bro… yaar yenna sollerethu! hehe
irritated indian February 6th, 2009 at 1:04 am
i guess makkez made a very very wrong perception on tis topic..

4get bout holding hands. bout the other two taboos.. if ur born as an indian and u proud to say urself an indian, i dun tink thers any problem havin the last 2 taboos remain as taboos.

only indians who gives great concern to tis sumting called maanam.. u go to Chinese n other races, tey dun reli bother about tis matter. The oni ppl who gv importance to tis so called maanam is Indians.. this is wher v r rich in.. if we wan to put even tis on de line, beta dun cal urself an Indian..Its juz embarrassing us..

if u hv such a sexy pair of thighs, keep it 2 urself n show it to de person u shud reli show.. y wana make it public show.. its ur asset gals..

so tink bout it.. ur carrying the title of Indian wic is full wit history and culture.. tink twice, mayb thrice if u wan such tings k.. even for sexy attire we hv so much tings to consider, imagine bout kissin in public!! Do i hv 2 tel more bout it??
Sharila February 6th, 2009 at 1:35 am
influenced by friend is also major prob here…4 example…when a homely gurl start 2 hang out wit modern gals…”wei…what lah you…this is 21st century lah…this is city man….y u dress up lyk patti kaddu? come on…leave these stupid culture and indian centiments yar…enjoy our teenage..bla..bla…bla..”these r some of the words come out….aprom when boys whistle or giv marks on them…mula lah..” chee..ithengelam akka tanggachi odde porekelaiya/? porkie naingge..alenja…gatal lah…bla bla bla..and if they molested or raped..”ayoo…kadavule..yen mannem poche…..yepedi ithe naa face pane poren,yen valkai poche…..” then end up with suicide or prostituition or become anti-boyz…i mean sexy here not just the way they wearing…but also the body language..eye contact and so on…which as happeningbaberockz said..can arouse a man’s sex hormone… …i used to wear a bit sexy b4 wen im in secondary school…im not giving an excuse or blame anyone els..but honestly i was influenced by my chinese friends…wearing sexy is not their culture as well…but nowadays its undeniable that most of them 4get their culture in terms of attires….(4 example…its rarely seen chinese gals wearing cheong sam nowadays)..hmm..back 2 ma story…so…when i lepak with them…they use 2 luk at me one kind…arghh…n advise me to be updated..n ask me to follow the trend…hmmm…later i also started to change maself in2 modern…but 1..i never cross my line…still i found that there are so many pairs of eyes looking at me with unusual intention…and thats not because im preety or wat..but caused by my costume..altot at 1st…i feel its nice to get someone’s eyes to caught on me…ewhh…but i feel bad when i think deeper..and i realise that as a gurl i should emphasize my pride and self-respect…and yea..one more factor y they wear sexy is to get attention frm others especially boyz….its no big deal to catch someone’s attention(maybe ur beloved one)…u can aso make it by covering ur body) trust me…thats more sturdy n long-lasting too…and now im still up to date but im very choosy in buying the appropriate clothes 4 me…and i feel more com4table now..so sarakuzZz..my advice..there no point crying over a spilt milk ….and yea…saree or chudithar is amazing and amusing…u can wear it whether u r wif ur bf,husband,frens,parents or grandparents…but if u wear sexy…maybe ur boyfriend will get excited…but not ur parents…and if ur bf truly loves u…trust me…he do mind wen u wear lyk dat in public place or infront of ur male frens…so…plz…consider what ive said just now…
Makkez February 6th, 2009 at 7:57 am

@indian gal - Oh yes they are!

@vicknes - Sharing is caring brother. =D

@eagle - Indian gals smoking in public? I think that would definitely top the list, although it’s solely depends on the individual.

@irritated indian - You obviously didn’t read my comment a few comments above yours brother. If you noticed, I am neither supporting their acts nor condemning them but merely LISTING DOWN the things that are deemed to be ‘taboo’ for us, the Malaysian Indians.

@Sharila - Exactly, one can be easily influenced by their peers on how they are behaving, but as you said, once they got raped/molested for their act, they shall be facing the consequences.
indian gal February 6th, 2009 at 10:35 am
my honest/personal opinion: I think it’s up to the individual how they want to dress up or behave in public or in front of Indian community and they have to face the consequences as well and also how you carry yourself. It’s just the Indian community’s mentality or shall I say culture that as an Indian girl you are not suppose to wear revealing clothes, get a tattoo, get a short haircut, drink or smoke, public display of affection, etc and you will be labelled as slut. Last but not least there is another up and coming taboo - HOMOSEXUALITY. Anyone out there to echo my opinion?
Nithz February 6th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
Your Title had concluded the whole thing & thats the fact. As for wearing sexy outfits, i think it’s up to the individual on how they want to be seen in public. Their choice & if they are comfortable with it, then up to them lahh. Nothing much we can do. But no matter what, whatever that goes around, comes around..!!~
Amenism February 6th, 2009 at 12:32 pm
Why, thanks Makkez, You’ve always got good things up your sleeves.
irritated indian February 6th, 2009 at 2:11 pm
oh sori la bro makkez.. din realize those comment..
nehow.. hidup M1..
JustHuman February 6th, 2009 at 4:01 pm
All 3 mentioned are fine just as long each can think maturely and don’t go over board.
isaipriyan February 6th, 2009 at 4:29 pm
Girls wearing short (VERY SHORT) skirts and short pants. ??????? ????????? ?????…
eagle February 6th, 2009 at 8:44 pm
indian gal, what you have said is very true. Homosexuality…among Indian girls are actually high! It is true. Lot of Indian girls are being bisexuals nowadays! They are open to threesomes and even group sex! Yes. I am not kidding! I personally 2 of them who are involved in all this and these 2 knows many others who are into this and they all in turn know many others who are into this as well.
viji February 7th, 2009 at 1:02 am
to theeyes: heheheh biasalah.. yaare nanghe, ninge sonathum nalla thaan irukku. real m1 couple. hope to c more in future.
and to makkez.. sorry la bro, shiok shiok membaca lupa plak tajuknya.
Durai February 8th, 2009 at 4:27 am
Ah, I missed 2 articles.

Brother, I think holding hands is fine, nothing wrong with that. The problem is holding hand is no longer being considered as extreme in the love concept of Modern Indian couples nowadays. Some of the girls consider kissing in public is the real show of love.

Indian girls dressing skimpy in public had long been considered something a taboo. See, I will not take fashion sense or keeping updated of current trend as an excuse of wearing handkerchief’s or any other ropes to cover your breast.

Oh come on, there is always nicer and decent dress that can make you look sexy, there arise no need to show your ass in tight jeans to explain the word sexy. I would only think how nice it would be to lay you if you’re in such a dress.

And that’s the truth, none other than the truth.
Kavi February 10th, 2009 at 3:00 pm
errr… kissing in public, regardless of wat race are u, will probably get u fucked by the police for being “indecent”…

remember the case about tat couple who kissed in KLCC park?
Amiezy February 11th, 2009 at 8:45 am
So far, i have never seen indian girls dress up too sexily in public. Even if they ARE sexy, its never over the top. (except maybe in Clubs).

For girls: If you have it, flaunt it.

For boys: Dont blame the girls if you cant control YOURSELF.
happeningbaberocks February 11th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
sis (indian girl..)..
yean sis ippadi sollitingge…
short hair as taboo?
y sis?

makkez bro, we forgot one more thing…
there’s another taboo…
when indians r in public, they r too shy 2 speak tamil…
appethaan peter-le orediya nadippaangga…
what is so wrong 2 speak in tamil when u r in public?
slimmer February 11th, 2009 at 9:29 pm
are u support : or against it . Any way, dressing and holding hand should not be a matter at all. but kissing in public im not sure….. Haram itu.
indian gal February 12th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
happeningbaberocks: I said short hair is a taboo because our Indians don’t really approve girls keeping short hair…I’m sure most of us came across the situation where our parents or siblings won’t even allow us to trim our hair let alone cut it short.
INDIAN GIRL February 12th, 2009 at 8:22 pm
Culture: something ever changing, not stagnant.

Saying something is not our ‘culture’ is like saying, that a woman when her husband dies, should jump into fire because that’s what women used to do, in our culture.

Or like saying, a man should not wear shorts, but walk around with a veshti and thundu. And when he is engaging in sports he should fold his veshti or wear a komano/ loin cloth.

Honestly, let girls wear what they want to wear. Let people who want to hold hands in public, hold hands. Let couples kiss in front of everyone if they want to. If that is how they express themselves, then let them. They will learn the bad things & the good things on their own. And if you don’t want to do it, then don’t do it.

Why argue about what is culture and what isn’t, just because you wear short skirts and show ‘everything’ it doesn’t meant you’re not indian…

Just like cutting your hair short, doesn’t meant that you are not a girl.

(besides, we do have naked people in india called naked jains who express their spiritual belonging to God by wearing nothing.. as clothes are material, not to mention women in british india went around with only sarees - as an expression of freedom fighting, and women often cut their hair short to show sadness at someone’s death, or a man grows his hair long to resemble a rishi).

we are Indians, as long as we know what we are, we don’t need to go around providing proof to every one that we are one or judging who is indian or acting indian and who is not.
Amenism February 13th, 2009 at 4:59 pm
Very well said INDIAN GIRL.
happeningbaberocks February 15th, 2009 at 3:23 pm
sis(indian gal)…
i have short hair…
cos i can’t keep long hair due 2 my health reasons…
but it’s not tat short..
around my shoulder…
previously it was a boy-cut style..
but i forced myself to keep long hair.. but not too long…
we should be practical la sis…
certain ppl can’t keep long hair cos sum might face d same situation like me….

n for indian girl…
sis,….
wat u say is true..
why are we so bothered on how ppl bring themselves?
let them do wat they want…. rite?
but let me take u few years back when d issue of an indian school girl was captured kissing in park (pulla padikire paadu, appan panathukku kedu:- tamil newspaper title..)
who captured d picture?.. a chinese man…
which newspaper published it 1st?… a chinese daily..
wat happened 2 d girl n her family afta tat?.. find out on ur own..
but wat mattered most was; tat girl was not addressed particularly…
in d chinese daily, they addressed her as indian girl…
see the word indian there?
oru aalu panna thappale, ethanna indians-ku avamanam?
wats ur verdict now, sis?
indian gal February 16th, 2009 at 11:11 am
happeningbaberocks, I think you got me wrong, I’m totally not against Indian girls keeping short hair or anything else..I listed down what are the things that our Indian community regard as a taboo and short hair is one of them. In fact I kept short hair during my school days and even after i started working and I got those unwanted remarks and I do have a friend who is keeping a short hair which always subject to stares and unwanted comments from our Indian community. Yes, very well said INDIAN GIRL.
happeningbaberocks February 18th, 2009 at 12:43 am
thanks 4 clarifying sis(indian gal)….
slimmer February 18th, 2009 at 6:22 pm
so wat short hair, Its style wat! anyhow, wen thaipusam day many girls go for bald wat. I like short hair girl.
ezac vince March 11th, 2009 at 12:07 am
nObOdy dIEs ViRGiN cOZ aT thE eNd LiFE fUCks uS aLL…..duN cAre wAT ppl SAy…Be UrSElffffffff…….
kuvendran March 23rd, 2009 at 12:40 am
it is girls wish, hw they wanna dress up, as a guy we never ever should interrupt…they know hw 2 dress, we should respect indian girls where wearing perfectly n not do like western girls
darenz17 April 26th, 2009 at 9:07 pm
@happeningbaberocks-Its bout ur last comment, me so ON wif dat !
No guys lyk his gf showing her flesh to others !
NO GUYS MEAN ALL GUYS !
Some might say dat `its her freedom` n other reason but deep down their heart they felt IT !
You are mine(UPCOMING WIVES) and those(flesh) are also mine, why showing it to others !
You guys o gals can think me as a typical guy but A TRUE GUY WANTS HIS GF ONLY FOR HIM in every single thing !
the girls shud realize hw much HE wants u, love u, by their actions n stop using d phrase `HE IS CONTROLLING ME` !
Sorry coz my topic terbang somewhere else ady. i jz wanna let the lovers(GAL) noe bout their guy`s care, love, feelings !
thx…..